By the time you’ve roamed the planet for over five decades you know a thing or two about mistakes. This is not to point fingers but to admit we are all human. We all make mistakes. But some mistakes, according to our culture, are deadly and we must live with the consequences the rest of our lives.
It’s true. As we grow older the mistakes of our past haunt us like an army of attacking zombies. They pound away at our psyche without mercy. And we bow our head and tacitly accept our self deserved punishment. Isn’t that what we are taught? According to conventional wisdom, if you make a critical mistake, you will live with it the rest of your life and be miserable.
I’ve come to believe the Great Mistake Hoax needs to be exposed. You do not need to endure relentless torment the rest of your life because of past mistakes. It is my happy duty to tell you just the opposite is true. They can be turned around and add benefit to your life.
Whether you’ve made critical mistakes in the area of finance, friends, relationships, health, or religion you can bounce back. Mistakes, even huge ones, need not be fatal.
Here’s 5 ways to dismantle the Great Mistake Hoax and how to benefit from it.
First, cut yourself some slack.
Did you really think you were different from the rest of humanity and would never make a mistake? Making mistakes is part of being alive. If you’ve been living under the idea you should never make a mistake kill that idea right now! STOP beating yourself up over those mistakes.
Second, forgive yourself.
As a pastor I’ve learned people have a harder time forgiving themselves than they do accepting forgiveness from God. I’m not suggesting you make excuses for your mistakes. But you need to look yourself in the mirror and issue forgiveness to the person staring back at you. Your past mistakes will never stop beating you up until you can take this vital step.
Third, analyze why you made those mistakes.
Pick money as an example. We’ve all made mistakes with finances. What are the most critical financial mistakes you ever made? Make a list. Now ask yourself this game changing question: “What lessons do I learn from those mistakes?” Use your past mistakes to learn lesson which will give you future victory. Do this for each area in your life where you have made major mistakes.
Fourth, focus on your most haunting mistakes and generate a plan to turn the mistake into a victory.
Here’s a tough example. I knew a woman haunted by her decision to have an abortion. Later in life she realized it had been a monumental mistake. What do you do with that? Generate a plan to turn the mistake into a victory. Nothing can undo the mistake but the mistake can serve as a catalyst for good. Adopt a child. Give financial support to an orphanage in a third world country. Create a plan to force good out of your mistake.
Fifth, implement the plan.
Find a way to implement at least ONE of your plans from step four. Get serious about this. The details are up to you. But when you do this you will have proved to yourself that no mistake is final because you have the power to use it for good. Only when you’ve done that will the haunting mistakes of the past stop their torment.
There it is. YOU have the power to turn your mistakes into something good. The Great Mistake Hoax is a lie. You do not need to live with the cloud of failure over your head.
Are there times in your life when you’ve believed The Hoax but turned it around for good?
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